Quarter Life Crisis

Have you ever heard of quarter-life crisis? I dont know what it is until a friend; Aiman (my ex-bf from school who became friends after few years) called me up and told me he had this crisis. This crisis happens to people in their quarter life 20s-30s when suddenly you realised you are all alone in a crowded places and you dont know what to do. Usually it happened to someone who is single, had a good job, a highly educated intellectual and they are not sure what they are doing. Graduated, moved out from parents and friends and do not have someone to hold on to like a life partner etc. and the changes are,,, so fast and you dont realised it. Aiman told me, that the only person who understands and probably in the same page is ME. yup. ive googled and yes, I am in that TOO! yes,, later after we hung up he texted me: "its an age where a lot people start developing a more realistic life outlook in its life and start feeling that they havent accomplished certain thing in life they thought they would by then, that they may never (even though this even true and they still have a long time to attain their goal and dreams)haha. welcome to reality.

Googled and took this from here http://www.cds.caltech.edu/~shane/text/quarterlifecrisis.html ...This describes well of what ive been going through right now.. and this is so pathetic.

The Quarter-Life Crisis
by unknown

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. (yes, i thought about this millions time)

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. (ive lost my best friend, she's getting married and really though she was sincere but in the end she told me to live with the fact that changes happens when best friend getting married..and i am so sad)

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. (this is happened to me too, when what you work as, is not something you wanna do)

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. (this happened to me recently)

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. (fuck this is me minus the one night stand thingy)

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

----Since i was in a high school, i never thought my life could be this way. and wondering how come someone like me, could suffer a life crisis like this? unfair init?